If you want to live well, relate well, and lead well, you’re going to need to learn how to filter well.
First, know what you need to filter out.
What kinds of things are just not helpful? This includes things on social media. When you follow everything you won’t go anywhere helpful.
Other things are less obvious and more nuanced.
An example of this is how to choose which water to take personally and drink and which to not.
Sometimes people mean things personally, and sometimes they have no idea what they mean.
Taking everything personally will make you sick.
Sometimes people don’t mean anything. Sometimes something they’ve said has just touched that open wound that lives within us.
If you’re going to move forward and not get hung up every day or two with discouragement and anxiety based on what someone has said, you’re going to need to learn how to filter.
It’s a skill and it’s easier the more you do it.
Things to take personally are things you know to be true about yourself that you need to address. It takes a lot of humility, but if you don’t drink this stuff you’ll become worse off.
Things to take impersonally are things that aren’t really about you. They’re either about the thing you’re involved in or they’re about the person who’s talking. It’s good to deal with this stuff, learn from it, but you shouldn’t drink it — at a minimum you should take the time to filter it.
It’s important to filter, but it’s just as important to know what to filter. To do that, you’re going to have to start paying attention to the water all around you.
Filter your water first.
Hi, I’m Michael and this is my daily project where I write about diverse ideas.
This is Dose #62.