Constraint Is Breeding

And It’s Having Twins

Imagine for a moment that you are a light in a parking lot.

Yeah, a light… in a parking lot.

You’re there, rising into the sky, cemented into place.

Your life oscillates between on and off, empty spots and full, the baking sun and the glowing moon.

For the rest of your life you will be a parking lot light, cemented into this specific piece of real estate.

You’re faced with a question:

Knowing this, what will you do with the rest of your life?

Your situation is one of extreme constraint.

The good news is, constraint gives birth to amazing twins.

Meet Twin #1: Commitment

What if you couldn’t go anywhere else?

What if where you currently are is where you will always be?

Your home, your income, your relationships… what if all of these things would not change for the rest of your life?

What would you do differently today?

Who would you commit to? What would you commit to? How would you value the things you have? How would you change the way you use your time or money?

The constant thought that I can go somewhere or anywhere else, I can make more money, I can meet new people… these often lead to less action and less satisfaction, not more.

Our lack of commitment will leave us feeling empty in the end.

One of our greatest fears, the idea that we would be stuck, might be exactly what we need in order to see the beauty and gift of life in the present.

Many of us think, where I’m at right now, what I’m doing right now, this can’t possibly be it.

What would it change about your life if you had no other option but to commit.

Meet Baby #2: Creativity

Now that you’re stuck there, having watched all of the theoretical options you hung onto fade away… what will you do?

It’s going to require some creativity.

At first glance you might think, “Well, I’m a light in a parking lot. It is what it is and I am what I am.” But this would be stopping far short of where you could go.

There are things that you probably couldn’t do and accepting that can be helpful.

But with the creativity that comes from accepting constraint, the number of opportunities you have may be much greater than you could ever entertain.

Maybe you could put a small wind turbine atop your lights.

Maybe you could invite a world famous graffiti artist to come and paint a design around you — drawing fans from around the world.

Maybe you could become the nesting site of an endangered bird and recruit all the other lights in your parking lot to do the same — becoming the first urban sanctuary of it’s kind.

So, what would you do?

Now that you know you’re not going anywhere else, what would you do where you’re at?

What opportunities are around you that you could do and enjoy but that you don’t because you’re always looking to the better future?

So…

There you are, planted firmly in the parking lot — fully committed to your piece of real estate and surrounded by the other parking lot light friends of yours.

It may take some time to accept your situation, but if you were to fully accept it, what would you do?


This is my daily project where I write about diverse ideas.

This is Dose #29.

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